Do you struggle to embrace your curls? For the longest time I struggled to love my curls until I learned how to properly treat them. Learn my tips & tricks below!
The struggle is real
I struggled so much as a little girl, teen and even adult to love my curls. Most of the time my hair felt like a curse. “Why God did you curse me with curly hair?” It was so unruly and messing and made me feel the same way. All I wanted was straight hair. I wanted it so bad I went to salon and had a strand tested to see if I could get it permanently straightened.
For whatever reason a random woman walked up and said “you look like your curls” smiled and walked away. Forever on after that, whenever I’ve straightened my hair (with a straightening iron because the permanent straightener didn’t work on the test strand) I’ve felt like some foreign woman in the mirror. Her comment ruined me for straight hair.
It was as if God was saying “leave it be, Lesly, leave it be.”
So I decided if I couldn’t straighten it I’d embrace the curl and learn how to work with it.
Embracing the curl
Curly hair IS special. There are particular way’s in which to treat curls so hold on tight! I’m about to unleash years worth of research and wisdom on ya!
First and foremost
Let’s talk about what not to do.
Never thin your hair. I get that it’s thick but thinning sheers will give you a ton of frizz so whatever you do… DO NOT THIN.
So what is the desired outcome for curly hair?
Low frizz – because lets face it, there will never be no frizz and that’s okay! It’s part of the wild mess that makes curls so stinking awesome! Curls are gorgeous because they are different. They embody a wildness and a beauty all their own. Embrace the curl, feed the curl, love the curl 😉
Shape – It is so important to accurately shape your hair. Not you, your stylist. I have only found one stylist that has been able to do this right. And I worship at her feet! Find a hair stylist that knows what she is doing. How? Ask around. Find people with curly hair and ask. They will understand, trust me.
**Tip: If the stylist wants to use thinning sheers on your hair, run for the hills! If there is anything a stylist should know about curls its that you don’t use thinning sheers. Okay, I think I’ve drilled that enough.
Not so thick – I have extremely thick hair. I break hair bands all. the. time. Its ridiculous. There is an option to thin your hair without thinning sheers but let me ask you something… how brave are you?
This is my head and the undercut is the workings of a talented husband. Shout out to the hubby – love ya babe!
Head to Pinterest. There are a million different undercuts you can pick from and they are so fun!
I can get my hair off my neck in the summer and it no longer hurts to pull my hair up in a bun. It was especially nice when my hair was longer. I love the manageability the undercut gives me. Granted, it took me months work up the courage but, I’d do it again. This is not for everyone, I completely understand. Still, it’s been amazing for me.
Products products products
Seriously, how many products do you use in your hair daily? I think I’ve used up to 6 at one time, multiple brands too.
The $$$ we spend and the cupboard space we use to house these products is ridiculous!
I am proud to say I’ve got my hair products down to 4, that includes my shampoo and conditioner. Would you like to know my secret???
It all starts with your shampoo – vitally important
Naturally curly hair is dryer. There isn’t much oil in curly hair which is why the shampoo you choose is so important.
You must and I mean MUST use sulfate free shampoo.
Say goodbye to the bubbles. Sulfate free means very little lather but, that is good! That lather takes what little oils you have washes it down the drain. BAD! You need those oils to stick around for soft shiny curls.
There are a ton of sulfate free shampoo’s to choose from but this my favorite:
It’s natural (flows with my lifestyle), sulfate free and I have easy access to it with my Essential Rewards. I got it, ran out and went back to my salon brand sulfate free stuff which lead to a total frizz fest! My hair seems to love Copaiba Vanilla Shampoo and who am I to argue with my curls?
Bonus: the essential oils in this shampoo work to soften and balance my hair. It also has a very light but good scent.
Lets talk conditioner. We all know the important’s of conditioned hair so I opted for a product that contained real and natural conditioning oils:
The writing is hard to read (sorry). The yellow on the green is a bad design but don’t let that stop you! This is Copaiba Vanilla Moisturizing Conditioner. I realize the bottle is the same size as the shampoo but hear me out. A little goes a long way with all it’s hair nourishing qualities.
In the past I’d coat my hair in conditioner but due to the quality of this conditioner, I don’t need to use near as much. I still run out a little quicker than the shampoo but I’ve never been able to get around that issue. #curlyhairproblems1.9million
While my hair is soaked conditioner I brush it out(brush listed at end of post). This is the only time you will a brush on my hair. As I rinse I make sure to leave a little conditioner in and whala!
Now that our hair is clean… What should be used to style it?
My next love. This product is not organic or natural but they do carry a little less chemicals than regular hair care products and, they aren’t badly priced.
DevaCurl is made for girls with curls! Out of their many products, these two are my faves.
DevaCurl Styling Cream and DevaCurl Ultra Defining Gel.
The cream is only used on the ends of my hair. I put it all throughout and it weighed my hair down – not in a good way. This keeps the ends soft and conditioned and adds the perfect amount of weight at the bottom.
The gel is amazing ladies! No flake, no cardboard, just soft textured curls – YES! It does get a little cardboardy but a few scrunches and it all goes away. It’s a miracle!
The smell is very light. No headaches do to over perfumed hair care. Yahoo!
The way I style
So, you know the products I use but let me walk you through the order.
- Shampoo – I only shampoo my scalp. I will run whatever is left through the rest of my as I rinse it all out.
- Conditioner – I want to leave this in a long as poss so directly after shampoo I condition and brush it through with a large bristled brush. I then soap my body, shave my legs… I wont rinse it off till I’m just about to get out of the shower. Again I only rinse for like 2 to 3 seconds.
- Dry – I use a regular towel. If you’ve found T-shirts great! I found they never really dried my hair enough and the end result was sopping wet hair that took twice as long to dry.
- I lotion and put a few pieces of clothing on while it drys in the towel then I reach for my DevaCurl products.
- DevaCurl Styling Cream – One pump and I start on my ends working my way half way up my head. I do this step with my head up.
- DevaCurl Ultra Defining Gel – I squeeze a fairly good amount into the palm of my hand and tip my head upside down. Then I rub my hands together and get to scrunching! Make sure, again, to start at the bottom and work your way up. I go all the way up to the scalp with this stuff.
- To style – I flip my head up again I style it. Placing the part where I want and if I see the need for more gel I’ll grab a little more and do some more scrunching.
Air drying… It sucks. Specially when you have to go places with wet hair but I’ve found it to be the only way my curls set right.
I do this about once a week. It helps a lot! I’ve done the coconut oil masks before but this is far less messy and time consuming.
I apply this to post-shampooed hair and wait the allotted 15 minutes. While I wait, I give my skin little deep conditioning treatment of it’s own.
Then I rinse and style as usual. I can tell right way by the softness in my hair. If you haven’t done a deep conditioning treatment in a while it might take a few applications.
It’s a journey
The truth is they are coming out with a lot of products for us curly haired girls now. A couple years ago we had little to no help. I am so glad things are changing!
Don’t give up on your curls. I know the frustration and hate that can be associated with curls but when you finally find something that works – it makes all the difference! Plus, there is just somethings special about curly haired girls… am I right? The awesome thing about bad hair days is we can always rock the messy bun!
What do you use for your curls? Do you like more natural, healthy products? What deep conditioners would you recommend? I’d love to hear from ya! please comment below.
**Side note. As I try new products (there are a few on my list) I will continue to update this post so stick around!